Crying instead of crying out after sex? Yes, feelings of sadness and tears is real after sex for both men and women.
Crying instead of crying out after sex? Yes, feelings of sadness and tears is real after sex for both men and women.(Photo: iStockphoto)
  • 1. What is Happening to You Emotionally?
  • 2. Why Does it Happen?
  • 3. But Why Are We Talking About It?
  • 4. Intimacy Has Nothing to do With It
  • 5. What Causes It?
  • 6. How Do You Address It?
If You Feel Sad Even After Fun, Consensual Sex, You’re Not Alone

Since sex is already such a huge taboo in India, conversation around it hardly goes beyond hushed whispers. Because there is never any mention of the first step in itself, no one talks about what comes after, which in some cases include melancholia, anxiety, tears and a general feeling of sadness.

Called Post Coital Tristesse (sadness in French) or (Post Coital Dysphoria), it is a state which is marked by all of these emotions after consensual sex. People who struggle with PCD can experience them anywhere between immediately to two hours later. And despite the common assumption, it’s not simply confined to women.

Dr Bhavna Barmi, Senior Clinical Psychologist at Fortis Escorts, New Delhi, describes PCD in the following manner:

“Post Coital Trisstesse or feeling sad after consensual sex is also known as “post-sex blues”. It refers to a feeling of immense sadness or agitation post consensual sex, despite the encounter being loving and satisfying. During PCD, some become sad and tearful after orgasm, while others become very argumentative.”

  • 1. What is Happening to You Emotionally?

    Crying instead of crying out after sex? Yes, feelings of sadness and tears is real after sex for both men and women.
    The simple answer is lots! You may feel all of these emotions along with a desire to conceal them.
    (Photo: iStockphoto)

    The simple answer is lots! You may feel all of these emotions along with a desire to conceal them, aggravating your emotional state further. And the worst of all? Not even being aware where all of the sadness is coming from.

    Those with PCD might not be aware of the feeling and why they feel the way they do after an episode of intimacy. Post sex blues come with intense emotional reactions that might cause the person to be anxious, depressive and irritable. Both men and women might try to conceal their feelings from their partner.
    Dr Bhavna Barmi

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