Sexolve@100: RainbowMan Answers 6 Most Commonly Asked Questions

Sexolve is equal rights activist Harish Iyer’s Q&A space on FIT. On completing a 100 columns answering all your queries on sex, sexuality and relationships, Harish has put together a video. He is answering 6 most common questions he gets asked.

Continue to write in to Harish Iyer, and he’ll continue to ‘sexolve’ your queries for you over the next 100 columns. Drop in a mail to [e-mail].

Hey RainbowMan,

I have a small penis. Will it impact my performance in bed?

Love, Chota Packet

Dear Chota Packet,

No, your small penis will not impact your performance. The length doesn’t matter. What matters is the technique.

Love,

RainbowMan

Hey RainbowMan,

My gay friend and I were roughhousing and he kissed me. Am I gay now?

Confused, Worried Student

Are you asking me how I become gay? One Sunday morning, I was walking on the street and I came across a rainbow. Then I found someone who was wearing a pink shirt. I just touched the person, there was an eclipse, there was a thunderstorm and that’s how I turned gay!

No, you really can’t turn gay. I didn’t turn gay, just like you didn’t turn straight. You didn’t wake up one day and said I have to look at the other populous gender. Similarly, I didn’t have this one moment in my life where I suddenly turned homosexual. Your sexuality is not interchangeable. You can’t be gay on Monday, straight on Tuesday, bi on Wednesday. We are not like clothes, we don’t change that way.

Smiles,

RainbowMan

Yo RainbowMan,

My wife prefers foreplay and doesn’t like penetration. But I would rather just get to it, if you know what I mean.

Best,

Man In a Hurry

Dear Man in a Hurry,

I know that you love to run the marathon while your wife would rather just walk. I know how difficult it is. I know men problems. If she wants to walk, she will walk and you’ll have to walk with her. And you’ll have to be patient. Yes she is taking her time, but you need to be patient with her. It requires patience and understanding. Sometimes, for good sex, you also need a heart.

love,

RainbowMan

Hey dude,

I want an open relationship where I get to sleep around, but I would rather my girlfriend didn’t. Is that alright?

Macho Boy

Macho Boy,

Have you been watching too many Hindi movies? Where the wife always stands by her man even as he sleeps around? Step into real life. And in the real world, if a man can do something, so can the woman. It has to be open on both ends. Let’s stop the pretense!

RainbowMan

Hello RainbowMan,

I once got drunk and made out with my roommate. Am I lesbian? Or bisexual?

Confused,
Wonder Woman

Dear Wonder Woman,

Whether you are lesbian or bisexual, that something only you will know. Making out with a roommate? We’ve all had those drunken experiences. I made out with women, but I didn’t become heterosexual. Similarly, just by making out with a woman, you don’t become lesbian or conform to bisexuality. You will know if you are bisexual or lesbian. Follow your heart.

Smiles,

RainbowMan

Mr RainbowMan,

I am a 50-year-old man and have been married for 30 years. I like to dress up in my wife's clothes sometimes. What does that make me? Please help.

Worried Old Man

Dear Worried Old Man,

Whether you are in your 50s, 40s or 20s, if you like to dress up in other gender’s clothes, it only means you like to cross dress. But if you would rather have breasts and a vagina you could be a transgender. I would advise you to see a psychologist to try and decipher what’s happening in your life.

Love,

RainbowMan

(You can send in your questions to [e-mail])

(Harish Iyer is an equal rights activist working for the rights of the LGBT community, women, children and animals.)